Hi everyone, I finally had time to try to make a good post today! So let’s get right into it. I see on several crossdresser forums how some crossdressers have come out to their girlfriends or wives. Now, every once in a while the wive or girlfriend is understanding and all that. But most of the time,,,, well,,,, it seems to be the beginning of the end.

I notice that a lot of crossdressers don’t understand why their mate is taking it so hard. They figure “hey, I still am the same person, I still love you, nothing has changed, you just know about my crossdressing now”. Well, YOU see it like that, but they don’t. For one thing, by coming out your admitting that you have been hiding that part of you.

Think about how hurt you would feel if they had a big secret and they finally told you. Worst is if it was something they are doing all the time, but behind your back. That’s what your doing when you crossdress and not tell them. Don’t get me wrong, I’m on your side, I’m just telling it like how they see it.

Then of course is the fact that they have no idea what to make of anyone who crossdresses. All that “you must be gay, are you a child molester, or just a weird pervert” stuff is going through their minds. Crossdressing changes your appearance, which makes it even worst. It’s like they are losing you, the person they know.

So, the best thing to do is, don’t get married if your a crossdresser until you tell your girl about it! I know I know, that’s a lot easier said than done. So many try to push the thought away, think they are not going to crossdress anymore, then years down the road that pink fog comes back!

In most cases it seems to do more harm than good if you come out to your mate. You always hope they will understand, but the odds are just not that good. Throw in some kids you may have and then it really gets sticky. So if you have kept it a secret for years, the best thing might be to just keep it that way.

If your single, don’t hide your crossdressing. Now I don’t mean you should bring it up on the first date, try to get some sex out of it first!! But if things are going well and you get close, then you have an obligation to tell her about how your a pervert,,, oops,, I mean crossdresser! (just kidding!!)

Of course your mate may be very understanding, in which case that would be so nice to not have to sneak around anymore. But again, the odds of that are just not good. Only you can make the decision to come out or not. Just remember that when you do, there’s no going back!